Late night ramblings.

[brinshannara]

I'm going to bed soon, but I thought I'd take a minute to update you all on my love life.

No, I still don't have one. ;)

However, I have got SUCH a crush on this one girl in my stats class it isn't even funny. Actually, there's TWO cute girls whose company I enjoy a lot, but I don't know one of them hardly at all, while I sort of, kind of know the other one.

So there's the really drop-dead sexy one, whom we'll call RM. She looks JUST like Rebecca Budig (Greenlee on All My Children):



Only she wears glasses and is less rat-faced and is taller. Everything else is very similar. She's very hot. And smart. And funny. But I don't know much about her apart from that.

And then, there's JB. JB is cute, quirky, funny and smart. The kicker is, she also seems SUPER nice. Like, actually kind, which is a trait that has been lacking in most of my interests throughout my life. My last GF was, however, one of the kindest women I've ever known in life and I refuse to put up with non-nice/kind people in a romantic sense anymore, which is one of the reasons I know I could NEVER be with my friend C. Anyways, JB is about my height, she's got wavy/curly red hair, green eyes. She wears glasses. She's attractive, but not HOT HOT HOT like RM is.

My introduction to JB was January 3rd in Stats class. We're all sitting at these stupid tables that have the chairs that are like, attached to the tables, and they swivel out. It's cramped quarters, too. So I'm just sitting there, waiting for class to begin, and this girl suddenly has her head in my lap and is apologizing for doing so, but she's dropped her pencil.

She and me and another girl (IL) all exchanged names and phone numbers, and that was about that.

Couple of weeks ago, though, JB and I hung out a bit after class and then walked out together, and when she realized I wasn't taking her bus, she hugged me and gave me la bise (it's a French thing where you kiss someone lightly on each cheek) and said bye. I should write a rulebook called "How Not to Get Their Hopes Up: Protecting Your Lesbian Friends", and include that. Oh, and it's not like she knows I'm gay, either.

Anyways, tonight, I went over to her after class and asked her if she was there the previous week, since I was, you know, dying of a sinus infection, and she's like, no, but I can photocopy RM's notes (they're friends) and give them to you next week? And I said that would be AMAZING, thanks, etc.

And then she looks at me and smiles. "Your hair looks great!" she exclaimed, and then actually reached out and bounced my hair on her palm.

Yeah, I'm lame, I wound up grinning like an idiot the entire way home.

Now, here's the thing -- I have no idea whatsoever as to how to approach her and see if I can get to know her a little better. We see each other once a week, rarely sit together (because I arrive early and she doesn't), and there are only TWO CLASSES LEFT. There's no coffee shop near that campus, or anything, really. She seems to get a lift home from RM on Tuesdays, assuming RM is actually there. I do have her number and her email address, but I know she doesn't check her email often (she doesn't have a computer), and it seems like calling her would be mildly intrusive.

IL and I were thinking that JB, RM, us and another girl (R something) should all get together and do a study group before the exam, but we should organize it quietly, lest these two annoying girls who sit near us (M and A) invite themselves along. So maybe that's a possibility.

Anyways, any ideas on reasons to talk to her or suggestions on doing something together that isn't completely obviously a way for me to get to know her are welcome. ;) It's like, I'd like to get to know her better, and I think if we were at the downtown campus, or if we saw each other more than once every week or so, I'd have a better excuse, but as it is... Niente.

Bed now, Italian studying in the morning.

Andrò al mio letto, adesso. Buona notte.

(PS: I can't wait to see what Irina Derevko looks like when she's being silly.)
(ETA: HAHA! That's a GREAT mood icon!)

Comments

[shiningmoon.livejournal.com]

Study group! :)

[brinshannara]

Definitely going to do the study group thing -- I should call her and IL up this week or something and organize it. Although I'm not great in group situations. I'm more of a one-on-one type person. Hm.

But yes, study group for sure. :)

[goldfishdreams.livejournal.com]

Come ON woman! You were gone for a week and clearly you don't "understand" something from that period. Can she help you out with it? Of course she can. Now get movin'.

[brinshannara]

<laughs> The issue with that is that SHE wasn't there last week, either.

(And, stupidly, this section is actually pretty easy.)

[goldfishdreams.livejournal.com]

Maybe she understands though, it doesn't matter if she was there. Besides, you can play stupid because you're still sick and maybe it's just not making sense.

[brinshannara]

I don't want her to think I'm an idiot, though.

But maybe next week, since we'll have an assignment due for the week after. I'll try to pick her brains. Or offer help, if I can help. :)

[goldfishdreams.livejournal.com]

Screw it. What time is your class? Randomly start some convo with her and then comment on how you're starving, and would she like to go with.

[brinshannara]

6pm-8:15pm in the middle of nowhere. NO restaurants, NO coffee shops, NOTHING. Except the lame "cafeteria" which has like, candy and bottled drinks like water, juice and soda.

So the crappy thing is being out in the middle of nowhere with nothing remotely social around, and going back downtown with her (since that's where she goes, I think) would mean then having to come back towards the middle of nowhere, since that campus is MUCH closer to where I live than downtown. I'd have already invited her for food if we were downtown! :)

[goldfishdreams.livejournal.com]

Why must you make this so difficult?! Does she take a bus that goes downtown, one that you would take if you were going that way? You could always ride the bus the same way and get off randomly to go back. Yes, it would suck an entire evening from you, but nothing says conversation like being stuck in a bus together.

[brinshannara]

<laughs> If I were going that way, I would take that bus, but she now knows I take ANOTHER bus and would inquire as to why I'm going downtown IF she takes the bus that way.

But, like I said, I think RM gives her a lift on Tuesdays, when they're both there, and I can't just say "Hey, R, can I grab a lift with you guys so I can chat with you both some more?" Especially when I'm going entirely out of my way and it's dark and it's cold and it means waiting for my bus downtown.

[tapdancinghippo.livejournal.com]

The only thing I can really suggest is stalking, because that's all I know, but since you're about a thousand times less neurotic and creepy than I am, a study group would probably be more likely. That way (since she's smart), there's the possibility that you could, maybe, catch her away from the group and ask to study together and say something like you work better in a smaller group and she seemed to know the material very well. Or, ask if you can call her before your exam if you have questions, etc.

OR, you can completely ignore my stupid suggestions that might not work!

[brinshannara]

Stalking did enter my mind. ;) She stayed behind after class to talk to the teacher and I was the last to leave, apart from them (I was packing up my computer), and thought she and I would walk out together, but I gave her and the teacher some privacy. And then I waited inside by the front door, because it's cold out and my bus wasn't coming for 15 minutes. I thought I'd see her briefly, maybe.

Well, my teacher walked out and waved at me as he left the building, and JB was NOWHERE TO BE FOUND. She gave me the slip! ;) (There's like, four other exits.) Alas! :)

[bevtag.livejournal.com]

For the study group idea, where would it take place? If at all possible, I'd try to have it at your place. This way she can see some of your interests from the books that you read, movies, music, how you've decorated your place, etc, and thereby giving you something else in common. So if she ends up liking the same types of movies or music, whatever, you have a perfect excuse for inviting her to do something with just you next time with whatever you have in common. "Oh hey, there's a kick ass band that sounds just like XXX that's playing on Saturday, you wanna check it out with me?"

If it's in the library or some place else pretty neutral, bring your music player. Ideally a CD player so you can sprawl some of the CD cases around the study area so she can't help but pick some up and check them out. Course, the pretense is that you got there early and decided to listen to some tunes while you were waiting for them. Although if she's smart then she might be into mp3 players too.

While you're there anyway studying, it still would be fine to just ask her if she and friend would like to check out a coffee shop/some sort of event on the weekend. As long as it's some sort of social event and you've got other people with you, it's not going to be obvious.

I hope that my advice was somewhat helpful to you. I tell you, it fucking sucks trying to figure out if someone is gay and is interested in you in that way. Good luck girl!

[brinshannara]

Hm, hm. We do have Alias in common, although she has yet to see any of Season 4. I was thinking we'd all go to a coffee shop near school or something, but maybe having it here would be okay. I should download all the S4 Aliases I'm missing and have a mini marathon at some point, maybe...

Alternatively, I like the CD player idea. Hm, hm. Thank you!

And yes, it sucks to wonder if someone is gay or straight or if they're just being friendly. :) I'm sure she was just friendly, but I've been known to turn a girl's head. ;)

I guess I'm just going to have to come out to these people, too. I hate that I don't have a girlfriend, because I can't just say "Yeah, my girlfriend and I..." or whatever. I have to resort to "My ex-girlfriend..." Meh. We'll see how I can manage that. It's so awkward! :)

But yes. Thank you! :)

[hambam.livejournal.com]

Only she wears glasses and is less rat-faced and is taller.

*lol*

Also, I'd say go for a group activity, just in case things don't work out. Then at least you would have fun with everyone.

[brinshannara]

Study group 'tis. :)