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So there's this guy. We'll call him M.
I know this guy from an online game, and we've chatted off and on (very off and not very on) for a few months now. Probably about six or so.
He has this habit of being online after 3am and before 5am. He has, therefore, witnessed my own nightowl tendencies. He claims his are forced by work hours, because he finishes at 2am or something, but anyways.
I've met him twice and he's nice enough, even though he does tend to rattle on forEVER. Like, for YEARS, about anything and everything. He's very much a know-it-all. As such, I SOMETIMES ask his advice regarding the game, 'cause even though he does brag about knowing the game (and everything else), he actually IS somewhat intelligent in terms of the game.
After he and his GF came to town a couple months ago, they broke up. And now, he tends to IM me even more frequently than he used to.
I don't actually mind this.
What I do mind is that EVERY SINGLE TIME he messages me, the first thing he says is "Go to bed!"
If there is one thing I hate for anyone to tell me, it's to go to bed. My parents stopped telling me to go to bed when I was like, 17. My grandmothers even acknowledge that I'm a nightowl. I believe ONE of my friends has ever chided me for going to bed too late, or outright told me to go to bed. I do not speak with this person any longer. (For other reasons, but that was a symptom of the other issues in the friendship.) I do get somewhat teased about my late hours, but that's a different thing. My exes have, occasionally, asked me to go to bed early, as in, with them. This is the only time I feel remotely comfortable being told to go to bed, and it's more of a request than a demand. And it's a request from the PERSON I LOVE. And it means snuggling, at the minimum, and possibly sex.
Why the fuck does someone who is NOT a good friend of mine, with whom I am most emphatically not involved, think that it's remotely OKAY to order me to go to bed? Seriously. If he were to tell me that to my FACE, I'd fucking deck him.
So how do I tell M to fuck off without necessarily losing a resource or getting on his bad side? Suggestions welcome.
And now, I am going off to bed, but that's only because I'm exhausted.
So there's this guy. We'll call him M.
I know this guy from an online game, and we've chatted off and on (very off and not very on) for a few months now. Probably about six or so.
He has this habit of being online after 3am and before 5am. He has, therefore, witnessed my own nightowl tendencies. He claims his are forced by work hours, because he finishes at 2am or something, but anyways.
I've met him twice and he's nice enough, even though he does tend to rattle on forEVER. Like, for YEARS, about anything and everything. He's very much a know-it-all. As such, I SOMETIMES ask his advice regarding the game, 'cause even though he does brag about knowing the game (and everything else), he actually IS somewhat intelligent in terms of the game.
After he and his GF came to town a couple months ago, they broke up. And now, he tends to IM me even more frequently than he used to.
I don't actually mind this.
What I do mind is that EVERY SINGLE TIME he messages me, the first thing he says is "Go to bed!"
If there is one thing I hate for anyone to tell me, it's to go to bed. My parents stopped telling me to go to bed when I was like, 17. My grandmothers even acknowledge that I'm a nightowl. I believe ONE of my friends has ever chided me for going to bed too late, or outright told me to go to bed. I do not speak with this person any longer. (For other reasons, but that was a symptom of the other issues in the friendship.) I do get somewhat teased about my late hours, but that's a different thing. My exes have, occasionally, asked me to go to bed early, as in, with them. This is the only time I feel remotely comfortable being told to go to bed, and it's more of a request than a demand. And it's a request from the PERSON I LOVE. And it means snuggling, at the minimum, and possibly sex.
Why the fuck does someone who is NOT a good friend of mine, with whom I am most emphatically not involved, think that it's remotely OKAY to order me to go to bed? Seriously. If he were to tell me that to my FACE, I'd fucking deck him.
So how do I tell M to fuck off without necessarily losing a resource or getting on his bad side? Suggestions welcome.
And now, I am going off to bed, but that's only because I'm exhausted.
